Your Divorce Ceremony
Similar to a wedding ceremony which brings two people together, a divorce ceremony splits two people apart. Think of it like a funeral service for a deceased spouse where there is a clear-cut end to the relationship so that both parties, no matter how difficult, can move on.
These ceremonies are “often deeply personal and spiritual, intended to help the split couple and their families move past disappointment, anger and hurt.”
Some religions have built-in divorce ceremonies within their liturgy. Judaism has a “get,” a Jewish divorce officiated by a rabbi; the Unitarian Universalist Church has a ceremony of hope, and the United Methodist Church offers a divorce ceremony. But if you are not of these faiths, not much else exists that distinguishes the end of a marriage.
What are divorce ceremonies like? Divorce ceremonies tend to be personalised to the couple. much like a wedding. They can be elaborate affairs with friends and family in attendance, or they can be intimate and more private. Overall, a divorce ceremony can be conducted in whatever manner you deem fit.
Some people use ordained ministers to emphasize the new promises, some people have informal parties without much fanfare, some people make personal “vows” to each other. It really depends on the splitting couple’s preferences. Keep in mind that divorce ceremonies are not the legal end to a marriage, but a spiritual way for couples to end their relationship with dignity, respect and healing.
You can also have a group just like in the baby naming ceremony where you have supporting adults offering support and give vows, to you and your children.
It doesn’t have to be with your ex-partner it can be done just with friends and family.
Derek often runs workshops where you learn to forgive yourself and others and part of that can be a divorce ceremony.
It’s your day so have something special to you and let’s make it unforgettable!